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Debilitating Fear, or My Daily Life; the True Story

9/18/2014

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I'm scared for the first time in my life that its going too quickly. That I'm getting older. Losing time. Running out of time. 27. Almost 28. I used to love that. Thought it was sexy and grown up. I'm happy to grow up if things are progressing. But setbacks and disappointments, like the Mint show being a bust, rock my happy floating boat. And not in a “light turbulence” kind of way: like the end of the Perfect Storm: the sun finally peeks out, and Wahlberg says "we're gonna make it, Skip!" and then Clooney's face is devastating, and you know they're screwed, and then the wind whips up and that one big wave, that mountain of black death, rises, rises... and rolls the giant ship over like its a toy. That's what it feels like. Like my ship is a joke, no match for the elements of the industry. I want to be building, stacking up the accolades, accomplishments... I want all the acc- words in my life, but I can't get any traction. My doubles all get caught in the outfield. Can't even watch the fucking Yankees this year. Unwatchable. Who are we? We don't even look like us.

Ughhh, and this is my BLOG; I'm supposed to be positive and uplifting and illustrating how GREAT my career is going, and how INTERESTING I am, and how HOORAY everything is and I'm TIRED OF IT. I just want to have a career, without having to whore myself out to everyone. Oh, great, I'll write pithy, colorful, interesting email blasts to make sure people aren't forgetting about me. I'll blog about relationships and diets and not-too-controversial political shit like the libraries closing all over the damn city (which is SHAMEFUL as far as I'm concerned, and contributing to the rapid deterioration of our society, by the way) and pretend I've got it all together. I feel like a plasticky, upbeat cruise director of a shiny ship called the SS Stefanie and really I think you all should probably just JUMP SHIP. Seriously, I'm sick of selling myself. Selling my soul.

Ugh. I ranted. Great. Now anyone who was reading this blog (my parents) will be disappointed and think I'm ungrateful for all my blessings. YES, I KNOW. I am grateful. I truly am so grateful. I'm so grateful that I'm TERRIFIED that if I forget to be grateful the hand of God or something is going to reach down and shove me in front of a bus, and I'll have awful terrible injuries and have to pee into a bag the rest of my life and I CAN'T EVEN TYPE OUT THIS SCENARIO because I'm afraid its some kind of curse ---my God, I just knocked on the desk. I'm that superstitious. I'm that afraid.

And so, people (mom) if you're still reading this very raw, snide, sad, maybe funny, definitely truthful post about where I am today, your takeaway should be the following:

  1. I've cracked under the pressure.
  2. That doesn't mean I'm going anywhere. Too damn stubborn to surrender, even if I drown. I'm George Clooney in the last moment screaming at the killer wave "Come on, you bitch!"
  3. Fear is the root of all collapse. It is the poison that crumbles great empires. And only those who withstand it, face it, live amidst it, will get the keys to the kingdom.

"Only fear can defeat life. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unnerving ease. It begins in your mind always... so you must fight hard to express it. You must fight hard to shine the light of words upon it. Because if you don't, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness that you avoid, perhaps even manage to forget, you open yourself to further attacks of fear because you never truly fought the opponent who defeated you.” -Yann Martel, Life of Pi

8 Comments
Samantha
9/18/2014 10:19:57 pm

I love you! And btw, you're parents aren't the only ones reading thIs ;-)

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Stef
9/18/2014 11:35:27 pm

Totally shocked and touched that you read this. Thanks babe.

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Anne (aka Angie) link
9/19/2014 07:56:41 am

Is this the Samantha I think it is?

And Stef, it's not just your parents!

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David
9/18/2014 11:13:46 pm

According to don Juan, the world of everyday life is as mysterious and rich as anything can be. All we need to pluck its wonders is enough detachment. But more than detachment, we need affection and abandon.
The Wheel of Time

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Holly
9/19/2014 12:25:10 am

Thanks for the honest post. It's actually just what I needed to read today. Sometimes we just need to give the finger to this messy, beautiful, sometimes disappointing thing we call life then turn around and keep on going.

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marie covino
9/19/2014 04:08:46 am

Face your fears Stef, you can do this you have Londino blood.

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Jim Bonfield link
9/19/2014 12:52:32 pm

Beautiful, raw, passionate and sooooo common. It doesn't go away. If you are a feeling person this "stuff" will be with you always. Age and accomplishment changes nothing. I have it all and I could have written the same god dammed piece. Roll with your being you, good times and bad and know that both will pass.

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Arizona Railings link
1/21/2023 07:39:14 am

Thank you for shariing

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